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Tuesday, February 20, 2018

To The Moody Wife Whose Husband Doesn't Know - Here's What You Need to Know

It's so funny because just yesterday a friend shared a link to a blog, Perfection Pending. I read this re-post to husbands about their angry wives. Not only did I laugh out loud, but I felt like the original author, Jesica Ryzynski of Her View From Home, was dead on the money! Because I too often feel like an angry person, myself; so through my life, I've had to create coping skills or good habits to help me manage. Some people might think that I am just bottling it, but really, I'm just trying to buy time to figure out what I am really feeling and why I am acting angry before others feel the repercussions of that anger.

So, as you can imagine, this article about angry wives is on my mind, but I get up and walk through my morning today like an angry wife. Sure as her article stated, my husband asked me too, "Are you okay? Something seems to be off with you this morning."

Well, duh. The list Meredith gave husbands to deal with their angry wives... I hadn't shown him the article yet. I must need to stop and read it to him. Or... I just need to use those coping skills and get to the root of my mood swing.

I chose honesty. I also chose to leave it alone after sharing the issue. You know? Rather than nagging and harping on something that I just explained once. It turns out, I got more results than when I keep up the complaints and the nagging.

Maybe I will eventually show my husband the article that Meredith re-posted, but for now I'm just going to let him be himself, and I'm going to love him through the mess because I'm my own mess too. If I haven't perfected him after 15 years of marriage, I'm probably not going to get perfect. But I sure do love his imperfect, perfect for me self.

So here are a few of my tips for the moody wife whose husband might read as angry:

Honest Motherhood

The little face revealed in this post below has challenged me as much as it has made me fall in love.

Knowing I am the eldest of six children, you would imagine I was all prepared for the reality of motherhood, but can anyone really ever be ready for what it brings? Spitup. Diapers. Laundry. Bottles. Food Processing. Snuggles. Love.

Then in a flash, all of those things have turned into a whole new list. Muddy boots. Pee Pants. Poopy Pants. "Mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy" (while pulling your clothes right off your shoulders). Hitting. Biting. Negotiating. Crying (lots of crying, by both child and mommy). Personality. "Yes ma'am, mommy" (with held dropped in disappointment - every - time - they - have - to - say - it). And every now-n-then, the "I love you too, mommy."

What is Love?

Tonight, I am feeling quite sentimental. It's something about having "the best time of my life"...

In my last blog, I told you that we were growing our family by two feet. Those two feet arrived on July 26, 2014 at 1:42 a.m. Jameson Rhett Fisher Teel was 8 pounds and 20 inches long. The last 6 months have flown by and been more than amazing!!! Motherhood has come very natural for me. I feel peaceful, harmonious and a love that has no end.

I've said to many of you "there is no timing like God's timing." Here's a little history to help explain what I mean... When Matt and I married, we weren't sure if we every wanted children. For those of you that know me well, you may relate this to the fact that I am the eldest of 6 children; you may not understand because you saw that I helped nurture those younger siblings; or you may understand because who would want to do it again, when you feel like you already helped raise a lot of kids. Regardless, we did reserve the right to change our minds... which we did! It wasn't until we enjoyed each other as husband and wife, had a lot of ups and downs, and traveled to a lot of places around the world. Finally, we changed our minds. Around 2010, we decided that we did, in fact, want a family. It took a long 4+ years to conceive. During that time, we had many questions about our future; why us, did we wait too long; are we too old? Questions galore; emotions galore; and then one day... we were pleasantly surprised! We had a little peanut on the way. This is what I meant by "there's no timing like God's timing." I don't reflect on the past with much regret. It's a wasteful emotion. Rather, I try to take the good and learn from the bad. Therefore, I can tell you honestly, God waited until the perfect time to give us our blessing He had for us all along. If the timing were anything else, I wouldn't have the reflection on my life as I do.

Today, my life is full of blessings that I adore and acknowledge. My husband, Matthew B. Teel, is such a marvelous man. He projects genuine, unconditional love on us daily. The kind of love that teaches me to be a better mother, wife, sister, daughter, in-law and friend. I know that he thinks about his family before himself; works to provide for us and not himself; and wants everything for us and less for himself. For the last year, I savored pregnancy, preparing for our first child, and since our son's arrival, the freedom to be a full-time mother. I have taken more delight in this than any of my other jobs. Watching Rhett change, grow and learn is a miracle. (I do believe we have a baby genius on our hands, folks. Ever heard that from a mom? Seriously!! I will have to save all of my favorite things about motherhood for another blog because I could go on and on. Rather...) I want the world to know that it is because of my hubby that I am having "the best time of my life!" And, therefore, he is my definition of love!

My hubby (daddy) & Rhett (6 months)

Thank you, babe, for allowing me to mother our precious son. Being a full-time mommy to him has already been the most amazing experience of my life, and I'm overjoyed to be sharing it with you!

Here's a little photo tour of pregnancy, newborn and a few between newborn and 6 months... If you'd like to follow Rhett's growth, please follow him here.

Maternity

Photo Credit to Amy Simmons of KMS Photography

Newborn

Photo Credit to Amy Simmons of KMS Photography

4 Months

Photography by TT

6 Months

Photography by TT

Post your favorite newborn-12 month photos below in the comments!

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Losing Those We Love

I have lost a handful of important people in my lifetime and experienced more than a handful of insufferable losses. On November 24, 2012 I lost another friend, who many would consider too young to die. The death of Charles P. Cooper IV (Proctor or Coop, as many of us knew him) has heightened my senses of these loved ones. Though Coop and I were not currently a part of each other’s everyday lives, I find myself thinking of him daily. These thoughts and memories lead me into my prayers for everyone who was a part of his everyday life. They will continue living without him. His wife and daughter, along with his unborn daughter due to join this world on Christmas Eve, will have to move forward living a life on this earth without the one person most important to them. Though it sounds so insensitive, it is reality. The road will be sad and happy, hard and fun. Thankfully, time does heal, as cliché as it sounds. I pray that all of those closest to Coop are able to find a way to keep him close, as I have found a way to hold my loved ones close to my heart and soul.

In my experience, reminiscing through conversations, experiences, and photos helps to enhance my dreams. At night when I close my eyes, I find the chance to spend time with my loved ones once again. If spending time with them in my dreams is all I get for now, I’ll take it because the sense of picking up where we left off is so consoling; we talk, laugh and experience things together that are possible on earth. Though they are only dreams, it often feels so real and it helps me to never forget! It comforts me and guides me through life. My dreams are where I can bring these people back into my life, if only for a instant.

Since my thoughts are consumed by all of this, I will be gathering a few memories and favorite photos of the loved ones that visit me in my dreams... Please tune in again to hear about Marcus Joseph Brown, Matthew Joseph McCurry, Patricia Louise Bird Freking (Memaw Pat), Henry Freking (Pops), Martha Louise Higdon Pollard (Granny), Alvin Byron Teel (Daddy T), Arvin James Pollard (Papaw), and more about Proctor!

How do you remember the loved ones you've lost? Tell me in the comments below.

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